Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence simply means ability to understand our emotions and emotions of others. If you have ability to know your weaknesses and strengths, motivate someone and handle conflicts then you are an emotionally wise person.
A bureaucrat can be intelligent in his career but does that makes him/her patriotic, courageous and honest. The answer is 'NO'. Your academic records can never prove that you would have emotional intelligence.
There are many types of feelings in human beings like fear, anxiety, anger, love, hatred etc. Every feeling is important and one of the goals of life is to get balance on these feelings. You can learn to speak French, you can learn to read-write, you can learn to sing,dance or anything but you can not learn goodness from any college or tutorial. You have to learn goodness through yourself only. Outside stimuli can motivate you but can never teach you goodness.
According to a psychologist Daniel Goleman, " Emotional intelligence hinges on the link between sentiment, character and moral instincts."
We can understand the feelings of other people only when we will be open to our own feelings. Suppression of feelings does not solves anything. We should learn to put feelings forward in a right way. Remember, human beings are animals and like any other animal they are also needed to be trained.
Change 'lust' into love; Change 'aggressiveness' into assertiveness; Fear into courage; Sadness into happiness. We all need to learn this art of handling emotions. Being angry or sad are not sins but if you will not control them then they can hurt in many ways. Anyone can become angry or sad but we should show these feelings at right time, on right person, for right purpose and we should not cross the line of sensibility.
We need appropriate feelings in proportionate to the circumstances. Our mind releases different types of vibrations in every moment of life. The more gregarious we are the more we need to control the negative emotions else they will ruin our reputation.    
Whenever you feel that any of your negative action arose due to negative feeling will hurt someone you love stop yourself, take a breath and see how can you display your emotion with less severity. It is better to feel and then think than to think and then feel that you have done wrong.

Uses and Abuses of MONEY

If you are a family person then wealth creation for your family should be your first and foremost goal. How a man uses money, makes it, saves it and spends it is perhaps one of the best tests of practical wisdom. Money carries a strange kind of power in it. You will feel confidence in yourself if you have plenty of money. But like any other power, money also corrupts people.
Once my mother told me a story of a poor and honest peasant. To test his honesty God send an angel to him. Angel stole his bread to see his reaction. When peasant completed his work he opened his box for food and found that his bread was stolen. He started smiling and closed his box gently. He drank some water and went back to work. Angel was surprised because such kind of compassion was not expected from a poor man. Angel told the whole incidence to God and asked the reason for his serenity. God said, " He has nothing to loose therefore he is relaxed, let me give him something and then check his moral ". One day the peasant was digging the ground, as he dug deeper he found a box full of gold coins. He was happy to receive such blessing of God. After 2 years, God again send an angel to him. The peasant was now a wealthy landowner. He was washing his hands before dinner. Plenty of things were present on the table like fruits, meat, butter, wine etc. Angel stole a piece of chicken from his plate. When the peasant came back he saw that a chicken piece was missing. He called his servants and scolded them. He even abused them and questioned their manliness. In his anger, he threw all the remaining food on the ground and dismissed all his servants. The attitude of the peasant had changed completely.
The moral of the story was that - God is ready to give everything but are we ready to receive those comforts?

Money is important and no doubt on that matter but it should not kill our moral instincts. Any class of men that live from hand to mouth will always be inferior class. They will necessarily remain impotent and helpless, hanging on to the skirts of the society. Having no respect for themselves, they will fail in securing the respect of others. We must carry money in head not in heart. Money-making does not require any supernatural abilities. It only requires ordinary energy, clear thought and application, avoidance of waste and persistence in work.
                                            Money does not only represents some notes and coins but it also represents two things of great value- Self-respect and Independence.
Money is directly related to our independence because if we would have to struggle for our every want then we will never be able to rise from slavery. We will always be on the bondage of others. Instead of focusing on petty savings we should focus on the methods of increasing our wealth. We should never depend on single source of income, if we have many talents then we should use them all. Empty bag can never stand by its own similarly a man in debt can never rise. Better go supper-less than rise in debt. We need money to be truthful else we will get indulge into small frauds and thefts.
It is not money but love for money which is the root of evil.
Poverty is a great enemy of any human happiness. Be Rich, Be Happy.

What makes an effective Executive?

(source: From Peter Drucker management books )

The 8 practices that Effective Executives follow are-

1. They asked, " What needs to be done? "
2. They asked, " What is right for the enterprise? "
3. They developed action plans
4. They took responsibility for decisions
5. They took responsibility for communicating
6. They were focused on opportunities rather than problems
7. They ran productive meetings
8. They thought and said "we" rather than " I "
   
   The first two gave them knowledge. The next 4 helped them in converting this knowledge into effective action. The last two ensured that the whole organization felt responsible & accountable.

The different information that Executives need are-
a) Legal Information
b) Information about the Competitors
c) Information about the Available Resources
d) Cash Information
e) Productivity Information

Discover your ignorance and overcome it.
For long term success you will have to produce short term results.
We need to know our strengths in order to know where we belong.
Social innovation is more important than scientific innovation.

Gautam Buddha- What astrology says about his character?

Astrology is among my favorite subjects. The photo inserted here is of old sculpture of Gautama Buddha. If we see this sculpture from the point of view of astrology we can know many amazing things about Buddha e.g.
(a) Big Ears- they represent that the person would have
good listening skills.  
(b) Closed Eyes- this shows habit of self-analysis or                                  self-improvement and patience

(c) Big Forehead- this shows that the person would have good intellect.

(d) Petal like Lips- this shows that the person would have sweet
and pleasing tone.

(e) Long Cylinder Shaped Nose- this shows that the
person would have an artistic sense.

(f) Soft Skin- this shows that he had good digestion and good sense of humor.

These qualities can make anyone King of Kings.