My Nani ,that is my Maternal Grandmother, is one the strongest women I
have seen in my life. She got married at the age of 15 and she had four kids
till the age of 24. She wanted to study. Therefore, she completed her Bachelors
in Music and lived happily, like a Housewife, throughout her life. She does not have Big Degrees from Top Universities or Work Experience from Top Companies, but she carries tremendous influence in the family.
We have family of mixed professionals like Doctors, Engineers, Government
Officers, Teachers, etc. but my grandmother ‘quietly’ controls everyone. Her
decision is always the last decision and everyone agrees to her. From her
actions, she taught me 4 powerful lessons which always give results. The
lessons which I learned from her are:-
1) Lesson of Divine Love- There is a
difference between Love and Divine Love. In Love, we have some expectations
from the people, but in divine love, we only love and nothing else. We don’t
bother why the other person does not call us or greets us, etc. We love people
and initiate conversation without waiting for the other. Divine Love brings
people close and increases our influence over them. My grandmother is a clear example of Divine
Love. Throughout my life, I never say her waiting for others. If someone will
not call her, she’ll call that person. I remember, she met her distant cousin
after 20 years, but her enthusiasm and love was same for her as it was 20 years
ago.
2) Lesson of Grace- Many women think
that it is the beauty of women which attracts men, but ‘grace’ of women is much
more powerful. According to my grandmother, beauty is a gift of God, but grace
is a self-earned reward. No one can make you graceful except you yourself. She
is around 70 years old, but her face has amazing attraction. She’ll not say a
word and her simple eye-contact is enough to control people. “After the age of
forty,” said Abraham Lincoln, “you are responsible for your face.” Slowly in
life, all our deeds appear on our face. We should do good things, if we want to
have a good face at the old age.
3) Lesson of Faith on God- She has a
strong faith on the existence of God. I never saw her missing her daily
prayers. She believes that only God has power to make and break people. HE can only
curse and bless. Only HE knows the past and the coming future. Therefore, we
should never divert from the path showed by the God. May be this is the faith
on God, which gives her willpower to fight with so many diseases she’s having
at her age. She advocates fasting and keeps fast for the welfare of others
without even telling them.
4) Lesson of Politeness- She
strongly believes that most of the fights take place because of the ‘tone’ we
use in the conversation. A drop of honey can attract more bees than the bottle
of poison. She always carries a politeness in her language and never tries to
belittle people. Sweetness of her language makes her sensible and sober. People
open, their heart, in front of her because they know that they are talking to
the right person.
