A to Z of Office Stress

• A for Anxiety, which we get after seeing the pending paper-work. 
• B for Budget, which we always get less than the expectations. 
• C for Chai/Coffee, whose excessive consumption adds more toxins in our body. 
• D for Delay in decision making, which kills the enthusiasm of work.
• E for Exercise, which we avoid doing. 
• F for Fried Food, which makes us over-weight. 
• G for Group tasks, which overshadow the individual efforts. 
• H for Helplessness, which we feel because we fail to ask for help. 
• I for Ignorance, which we never try to remove through constant learning. 
• J for Justice, which is either delayed or ignored. 
• K for kill time, which we do in gossips and long meetings.  
• L for Listening, which we do less because speaking gives us more pleasure. 
• M for Motivation, which we rarely get from outside. 
• N for Nutrition, which we care least due to our glutton tendency. 
• O for Ownership, which we try to pass on someone else. 
• P for Politics, which is a part of our profession and brings no conclusion to the problem.  
• Q for Questions, which anyone can ask under Right To Information without having any clue on the subject. 
• R for Rotomac Pen, which always gets lost at the time of signing important documents. 
• S for Sympathy, which no one shows when we desperately need a holiday. 
• T for Timeline, which we always cross due to unknown factors. 
• U for Unpaid bills, which haunt us in different ways. 
• V for Vision, which is generally blurred due to short-sightedness. 
• W for Water Closet, which remains untidy because sweeper is always on strike. 
• X for Xerox Machine, which would always have shortage of pages esp. when we need it.
• Y for Your Spouse, who always believes that you have no time for him or her. 
• Z for ZZzz, which means we don’t take enough sleep and invite health related troubles. 

How introverts can develop Social Skills?

In 21^st century, people decide your net-worth by the network you have. We can never succeed in life if lots of people don’t want us to succeed. We all need a social support system around us.

Networking is a tough task for introverts. I can understand this because I myself is an introvert.

Both of my parents were working and most of the time, I was alone in my house guarding it and protecting it. When we spend most of the time in isolation, we start enjoying it and avoid social interactions as much as we can. Believe it or not, I had never went to my college canteen just to avoid conversations!!! Introverts avoid people because most of the time introverts don’t know what to say. Other than my classmates, I never tried to know anyone else in the school or college. Juniors and seniors were alien for me. When I was doing my Bachelors in Business Administration that was the time when I learned the importance of networking in one of the management classes. I learned that talent and relationships both help us jointly in real-life. From that point of time, I am working on my social intelligence.

Though, I don’t consider myself as a master socializer but I can share some practical tips by which any introvert can improve his or her social skills.

1. Introverts are not talkers- This is a reality. No matter how many communication classes you attend, you would find that talking does not gives any pleasure to an introvert. However, listening is easier for introverts. In the real world, listeners are quite rare. Most of the people want to talk, but don’t want to listen. Listening others attentively can make any introvert a master communicator. When other person stops talking then ask questions related to his or her interest and he or she would start talking again. This is one of the best ways by which introverts can engage others in a conversation.

2. Smile- Introverts do not smile and this is a universal trait of introverts. Introverts always have a flat face. This is a big mistake which we do. Smiling face attracts more people than a dull face. Force yourself to smile. Smile whenever you get chance to smile. Stop scaring people with your flat face.

Vladimir Putin Not Smiling Vs Smiling

3. Take help of friends- Making friends and forming groups is natural characteristic of human beings. Even introverts have few good friends (not more than four). In order to expand your network, take help of your already existing friend circle. When I was doing MBA, I had 4 roommates and through them I break-the-ice with rest 106 people of our batch. This process was long, but effective. Through this method, we can know more people in less time. 

One person can help in knowing six other people

4. Make use of social media- Writing is easier for introverts than speaking. Writing engages mind of introverts and they can interact easily with more people through messages. Make use of LinkedIn to form a good professional network. Facebook can help in making an interesting informal network and WhatsApp can help in daily chats. Introverts would find themselves to be more actively involved on social media than in real life.

5. Take care of your appearance- Once a film actor was asked that why so many people are mad for him and he said that “May be because I am beautiful.” What an easy answer for a complex question. Actors understand the importance of appearance more than any other person. Actors know that human beings are highly visual people. Our eyes crave for beautiful things. Take care of your appearance. Looking good requires only two things- (1) Exercise daily to keep your body toned (2) Don’t wear disorganized clothes. Do these two things and you would look better than two-third people. Good appearance would give you confidence and it would attract others. This would make interactions more quick and easy. 

Tom Cruise in the film Top Gun

All the best to all the introverts. 

On Indian Style of Dancing

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In Sanskrit Civilization, Dance was divided into two forms-
1. Lasya- Lasya represents feminine qualities. It means that dancer should have ability to show female expressions, body language, and appearance in its dance.

2. Tandava- Tandava represents masculine qualities. It means that dancer should have ability to show its male expressions, body language, and appearance in its dance.

Dance is not just about the physical movement, it also means that how a dancer looks like during the performance. Therefore, dancer should take care of its appearance and clothes which it wears during the dance performance. Dancer cannot effectively portray the feelings of a man in the dress of a woman.This is an important piece of information. 

Many times new dancers think that if they are male then they should only learn male dancing style and female dancers think that they need to learn only female dancing style. It is an incomplete approach towards dance. Learn to dance in both male and female styles. It would increase your empathy towards the other gender. It would also increase your thinking ability which we limit with our gender-specific-roles.

Dancing is an interesting type of training for young boys and girls, it helps in developing interpersonal skills between boys and girls.

Learning positive things from both the genders would develop you as a complete human being.

In Sanskrit, Dance is called “Nritya.” If we divide the word Nritya, we would get two words- Nritta and Natya.

Nritta means expressing emotions and Natya means acting. Every effective dancer has ability to express its emotions through its face and body. Good acting skills help in developing the correct body-language.Dancers can easily portray the feelings of the lyrics and music through their face & body.

Dancing requires knowledge of acting and psychology e.g. dancers should know how a person reacts in love, fear, anger, etc. (this is psychology) and they should have ability to express these feeling meticulously through their body (this is acting). 

Dance is an art form which combines our mind and body. Dance dissolves our mind and body, and we become one. That is why, it gives us a special kind of pleasure.

Dance entertains and educates. Dance is used in many religions to remember God, may be because our ancestors had understanding of its soft-power.

There are nine types of emotions which are conveyed while dancing. These emotions depend upon the lyrics and music on which the person is dancing. These emotions are-

1. Shringara- It means ‘romance’. The most important thing to take care of while dancing on romantic tunes is that the dancer should lose its grace. Romance should not look like a frivolous act. Romance should have a grace in it; a melody which can tune anyone’s heart.

2. Rudra- It means ‘anger’. There are dances which requires dancer to show anger. It requires masculine movements; and excellent work of eyebrows and breathing. When we get angry, we shout. But, suppose you need to show your anger without shouting or even talking then how would you do that? Make note of those expressions and show them in your dance.

3. Bibhasta- It means ‘disgust’. Sometimes we need to project our feelings of disgust in our dance. Disgust is a mixed feeling in which we are sad and angry both. Feeling of disgust pushes us for the change. Disgust creates a hidden rebel inside us.

4. Veer- It means ‘heroism’. Hero carries positive anger in him or her. Heroic dancer projects assertiveness in its action i.e. getting into action for the justice. It is an inspirational and courageous form of dancing.

5. Shaanta- It means ‘peace’. Dancer should have ability to project peace in its actions. It helps in harmonizing the audience and creating a collective rhythm in the environment.

6. Haasya- It means ‘humor’. Dancer should have ability to make its audience laugh with its actions. It is easy to make people laugh on a verbal joke, but dance is more about non-verbal humor. Dancer should have ability to create madness around him or her.

7. Karuna- It means ‘sympathy’. Dancer should have ability to develop sympathy in the audience on the topic on which he or she is dancing.

8. Bhayanak- It means ‘dangerous’. Dancer should look dangerous in this style of dancing. People should find him or her merciless and villainous. 

9. Adbhuta- The literal English translation of this word is ‘wonderful’, but adbhuta means something more than that. It means carrying a mystic and surprise element in the dance form. Dance should have a mystic grace in it which can amaze the whole audience. It should leave with an astonished feeling. 

Anyone who could show both lasya and tandav was considered to be the complete dancer. Every dancer was required to master these nine emotions and they were displayed as per the occasion and requirement. 

The purpose of the blog was to share the lost ancient wisdom on dancing. I hope it served its purpose. 

How to be a Spiritual Badass?

Spiritual Myth 1- Be Tolerant

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Spiritual Truth:- Remember my golden rule- “You would get what you would tolerate.” Never tolerate wrong things else you would get wrong things from all the directions. To lead a good life tolerate only good things. Never be blindfolded for the non-sense that is happening around you. Actively participate in making your life and the life around you beautiful. Sometimes good people unintentionally do bad things, you can tolerate them, but if you feel that someone has hurt you then do reply to that person. No need to give immediate reply, take your time and give the right answer on right time. 

Spiritual Myth 2- Remain Content Spiritual Truth:-Many people believe that we should live the way we were born e.g. we should not change our country, religion, job, relationships, the house we were born in, and we should remain content with whatever boring things we have around us. This is one of the biggest traps. Never live the same boring life and call it living. If you feel that something needs to be changed then change it. Live a great life and get rid of that everything that stops you from being the best. Never cultivate a bad relationship just because society has planned that for you. Plan your own life. Get surrounded with happy and positive people. Dream Big. Make lofty goals. Learn. Fail. Try again. If you are not expanding then it means you are dying.

Spiritual Myth 3- Honesty and Hard-work gives success 
Spiritual Truth:-Honesty and Hard work can be called foundational principles of success, but they alone can never give anyone success. The first thing you require for success is talent. No matter how much honest or hard working you are if you don’t have the talent then you would never make it. Make yourself talented. Learn about your job, initiate, innovate, give results and together these things would make you successful.

Spiritual Myth 4- Devotion is the only form of worship 
Spiritual Truth:-Reading spiritual scriptures makes me realize that God has made us so that we can woship HIM and the one who would not worship him would get punished by HIM. There are many forms of worship like devotion, charity, love, meditation, chasing excellence, penance, etc. Making offerings to God and singing and dancing in his name are only a type of worship. Find your medium of worshipping God. Which method suits you the best? Find it. Follow it or create your own way of approaching God. Unless you would not experiment with different methods then who knows what would give you spiritual peace. God is infinite and HIS search is also infinite. If HE is formless then HE is also nameless.

Spiritual Myth 5- My religion is the best 
Spiritual Truth:-Religion is only a medium to understand spirituality. It is only a way and not goal. Your goal is to find your spiritual strength and any religion can offer you that. Every human being should have freedom to choose his or her religious faith. I would prefer to have multiple faiths. I would prefer to follow Buddhism and Shaivism under scientific temperament. Never think that your way is the only best way. Your faith may be the best, but only for you. You can discuss about it, but you have no right to compel anyone to follow you. Between life and death we have a journey and we all have to plan out our own journeys.

How to produce terrorists?

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After Global Warming, terrorism is the next big global problem. Almost all the 196 countries of the world are under the threat of any terrorist activity.

As a human being, I believe that we all want to live a peaceful and healthy life. We all want to raise good children, spent time with our wonderful spouse, give comfort to our parents, and die gracefully.

Then what turns people into a terrorist? Why number of terrorists is rising day-by-day? I believe that only 10% people are natural criminals and rest 90% are just ignorant followers.

In this blog, I would share some methods which can turn anyone into a terrorist.:- 

1. Deprivation- We become aggressive when we think that our rights are being violated. It makes us fearful and this fear compels us to do things that we don’t want to do. A terrorist leader says that people of a particular community get more privilege and they are raping our women, and we become afraid of our future and present security. We also get ready to fight without even analyzing the truth. Most of the problems in the world are the result of fear and every smart human being uses it to control the other human being. Terrorists use deprivation very convincingly to ignite hatred.

2. Communication- Generating fear is not enough, we also need to sell it and selling requires communication. Terrorists propagate their agenda through the different mediums of communication like pamphlets, radio, internet videos, posters, and television interviews. I have heard that they are now developing mobile applications to spread the hatred. They want the message of fear to reach each and every human being. They want us to live in suspicion and a continuous state of uncertainty. Their over-communication is creating miscommunication in the society.

3. Need of Affiliation- Chances of becoming a criminal is higher in an orphan than the person who has a family. We want to get affiliated to a group to beat our own loneliness. Terrorist organizations give a sense of belongingness to their terrorists and esp. those who don’t have a family. They give them a pseudo-confidence that they belong to something big and give them an illusion of common brotherhood. Army also uses this, but they use it for construction whereas terrorists use it for destruction.

4. Employment- It may sound odd, but many people are involved in terrorism because it gives them employment. Terrorist organizations hire poor and aimless boys, and girls. They promise them training, money, food, etc. They give them a direction in life (though that direction is a type of misdirection). They manipulate their ambitions to fulfill their own objectives.

5. Religious Sentiments- I am writing this point in the end because I didn’t want people to look at this whole blog from the point of view of the religion. There are different layers to this problem which I wanted to talk about before saying anything about the religion. We are emotional about our religions because it is something which we inherit from our parents and forefathers. Religion teaches us way of life and art of remembering the Creator. Any threat on our religion moves us deeply and it gives us a spark to do something. Terrorist organizations manipulate our religious sentiments very intelligently. They connect their whole plan of action with religious philosophy and compel us to act as per their guidelines. It depends upon us that whether we want to use religion to live a better life or kill innocent people who had no fault other than being from a different community.

I don’t know how people would react on the above points, but what I am writing is because I demand to live in a united and peaceful society. It is my small step to make educated people like you aware about the truth.

Anyone who thinks that I have written this to target any religion then let me tell you—I am a Hindu, born in a Christian Hospital. My best friend was a Sikh and my neighbors are Muslims.

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Basic techniques for finding humor in your daily life

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Humor is like salt. It is required in the conversation, but only in a small amount. Too much or absolutely no use of it would ruin the whole conversation.

Before cracking any joke, always keep few things in mind :-
1. No need to make everyone laugh because everyone would not understand your joke

2. Avoid cracking jokes in front of strangers and unknown gatherings because you would never know that how people would react on them.

3. Remember, humor is like a two-edge sword. It has potential to protect you as well as damage you. So, be prepared for the consequences.

There are some basic principles of creating humor, they would not make a professional comedian overnight, but they would help you in finding humor in your daily life.They are as follows:-

1. Tell them the Truth- Let’s take an example, I am committed to lifelong learning…because most of the time I feel like a fool. This punchline sounds funny because it has an honest confession in it. People are afraid of telling the truth and anyone who tells the truth is considered to be mad. People laugh on honesty with an open heart. You can tell the truth about society, culture, art-forms, politics, etc. and people would burst-out laughing because no one expects you to tell the truth. Most of the cartoonist actually tell the truth with an exaggeration and everyone finds them to be a genius.

2. Exaggeration- Let’s take an example, after eating my hostel food even death prayed for death. This is an exaggeration. We all know that death can’t pray for death. Exaggerate a normal situation as much as you can and it would turn into a joke. Normal human beings would understand that when you are exaggerating the matter and they would start laughing because they would figure out that you were lying.

3. Weird Logic- Let’s take an example, don’t worry if you don’t have a valentine on Valentine’s Day….many people don’t have AIDS on AIDS day. This statement shows a weird logic. We all have some basic power to reason, but giving a weird logic requires creativity. You need creativity to say absolutely non-sense thing which has some slight element of logic in it. The more weird your logic is, the more humor it would generate. 

4. Mimicry- Mimicry requires two things (i) Frustrated Actor (ii) Ability to observe others. If you don’t have ability to observe others then it would become very difficult for you to do mimicry. Mimicry is not just about changing your voice, it requires proper gestures, postures, and expressions. No one likes mimicry with a flat face. Good acting skills would help you in presenting yourself properly.

5. Vulgarity- Anything that you are afraid of saying in front of your mother is vulgarity (I hope you understand). You would generally get a mixed type of audience. Many people like toilet-jokes and many people dislike them. Many people like jokes on politics and many people would not tolerate even a single joke on their political party. Surprisingly, vulgarity connects people more quickly than any pasting gum. People understand sex-jokes very easily. Say something vulgar and they would remember you till death. But, as a precaution, avoid cracking sex-jokes in front of religious people because they believe it would hurt their chastity.

To make any situation funny just follow any two or more principles mentioned above and the whole incidence would turn into a hilarious event because they are the basic principles of humor. Execution of these principles requires madness and it comes from inside. So, I can’t tell you how to be a mad person. You would have to find your own madness to give your jokes a personal touch. 

Keep Smiling !!! 

Positive traits of Indian Men

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It is my suggestion that position of women can’t be improved by bringing down the position of men. Lots of blogs are being written against men just to uplift the status of women and I am against this attitude. This blog is dedicated on the positive traits of Indian men. May be this is the only blog of 2016 which favors men :- 

1. Collectivism:- An ideal Indian man knows the importance of living in a group. That’s why he gives priority to his religion, caste, family, and peers because they are the different types of social groups. He believes in patience, humbleness, and tolerance because these traits are important in group functioning. He believes in collective growth and collective identity. He has tolerance for different religions because Indian man knows that no matter what path you take, it ends in God.

2. Respect for the Environment:- Capitalism played major role in damaging the environment. Global Warming is a result of the greed of Industrialization. India and China were the countries who controlled the 50% of world’s economy till 18^th century without doing any huge damage to the planet Earth. Indian men respect their soil, trees, birds, animals, rivers, and mountains. They worship them and how can you hurt something that you worship. Chipko Movement in India was started to protect the trees from being cut by the government. People used to embrace trees in Chipko Movement to prevent them from being cut. World had not seen such bravery before to protect the trees. It is an another proof for their respect to the environment. 

3. Workmanship:- India is a leading producer in tea, coffee, fruits, vegetables, rice, wheat, mica, sugar, jute, rubber, etc. India is among the few countries who have Nuclear power. Only five countries in the world, including India, have capacity to create any missile. It has the second largest Army in the world. India is the favorite destination for Medical Tourism. India has done all this in just 69 years of Independence. Indian men have excelled in every field despite having many economic and social challenges within the country. Bhagavad Gita- an ancient text of Indians- talks about Karma yoga which states that showing excellence in work is a form of worship. Work is worship for Indian men and this makes them a competent workman. 

4. Mental and Physical Growth:- Colonial era tried to crush the core ideologies of Indians, but they could not crush the practice of Yoga and Meditation. It is because every Indian man already knows the importance of Mental and Physical growth. You don’t need to teach them about fitness because it comes naturally to them. Though food habits of Indian men are not healthy as per global standards, but they are not ignorant on the topic of health. Ayurveda is one of the oldest forms of medicinal practices of India and natural cures are preferred in the country more than the high-cost allopathic treatments. Fasting is still practiced by men for both mental and physical benefits.

5. Science and Spirituality are one for them:- Indian race is the only race in the world which has accepted every scientific discovery without making any chaos. Theory of Evolution, Gravitational Theory, Concept of Nine planets, etc. were accepted by Indian men more easily than the West. West is known for its machines and East is known for its thinkers. Spiritual as well as scientific thinking was prominent in the civilization from hundreds of years. Indian men keep a good balance between faith and fact. Their faith evolves with the scientific evolution.. 

Four Innovative Mobile Applications

Before, telling you about the apps which I believe world needs; let me tell you that I am neither an engineer nor scientist. Therefore, I am not sure whether these mobile apps could be made or not. These suggestions are moreover based on my imagination and personal thinking. 
Technology has made our life lot easier than before. It has played an important role in framing the millennial generation. Personal Computers had revolutionized the personal growth of the people and now smart phones are doing the same.

Different mobile features and applications are giving us new mediums to explore ourselves. There are many mobile apps in the market which are doing great job, but we require certain mobile applications to operate more efficiently.

Some Mobile Apps which the world requires are-

1. 3 White Poisons App: - People are becoming health conscious. There are more number of gyms and health product in the market than ever before. Though, cases of lifestyle diseases are increasing, but we can’t ignore that people have demand for a healthy body and mind. There are 3 white poisons i.e. Salt, Sugar, and Flour. For a good health, we need to take these white poisons in a balanced quantity. We need a Mobile App which can inform us that which product has how much amount of white poison and how much quantity of the product we should have e.g. I don’t know how much salt and sugar a simple ketchup has, but suppose I get this beneficial information then I can check myself beforehand.

2. Animal Detector App: - In many countries, agriculture is the major source of income for the general public. Farmers sleep, eat, and work in their fields. This exposes them to wild animals. Every year almost 100 people die in India due to Elephant attacks. A mobile app which could detect animals around the field through online maps would be a boon for the farmers. They would be able to protect their crops and themselves from the attacks of different animals. This would esp. help at night when visibility is low and risk is high.

3. Diagnostic App: - Every smart phone has a camera to click photos. Suppose, we get diagnostic report of our body parts just by clicking a photo and submitting it on the app. It would decrease the out-of-pocket expenditure of the people on small tests and it would also save their time and energy spent in the long queues of the diagnostic centers. It would play an important role in the rural areas where there are limited numbers of diagnostic centers and people don’t have much resources to go to big cities to get medical reports. People would be able to get primary report of eye and skin infections just from their mobile phones. They would also be able to send their reports to doctors for further assistance.

4. Genealogy App: - We all want to know that from where our ancestors had belong and do we have any distant relative in the different parts of the world. Suppose, we make an app which carries our DNA report and brings matches with the people who could be our distant relative who we don’t know. It would just create a different level of social platform where people with same genes are in contact with each other. The app would also make our family tree which we would be able to access anytime.

The World is waiting for these Apps. Let’s see when the dream of these apps would come true. 

17 Laws of Personal Success

I don't take credit of any of these Laws because I have read them in different books. I have only compiled them at one place. 

1. Law of 3 settings: - It is a technique which is being used for staffing people at key positions. But, we can use it to understand anyone. There are people who are different in office, home, and social gatherings. These people don’t have consistency in their character. It is important to meet people in 3 different types of settings to draw an average about their character and understand them properly. Now, question is why to meet people in 3 settings and not 2 or 1? See, one is not an option, two creates dilemma; unless we don’t have three alternatives, we cannot make any decision.
2. Law of Four: - Everything in this world can be divided into 4 parts, for instance, we have 4 seasons, 4 directions, 4 natural elements, 4 dimensions, etc. Whenever you get any problem, remember, there would be 4 alternative solutions of that problem and among them one would be the best solution. We can also use this principle in relationships e.g. no one has more than 4 friends in one time period. It is important to spend maximum time with those 4 friends because that would keep us energetic and motivated.
3. Law of Co-extinction: - There was one woman who was fit and fine, but she died after one month of her husband’s death. I know many of us must have come across such incidences. Law of co-extinction can explain this phenomenon. It states that two people (or species) which are dependent on each other, if one of them dies then the other one also dies after some time.
4. Law of Compensation: - Our level of income is directly proportional to the value we bring in our work. Increase your value and your income would increase. Suppose, you help your organization to earn or save 10, 00,000 bucks then it’s obvious that you have good chance of getting 50,000 bucks for helping them. Do this- Complete your work on time. Use your office resources efficiently. Help your colleagues and supervisor. Suggest new ideas for the development of the organization. Make yourself a valuable employee. Soon, your reputation and income would take a positive change.  
5. Law of Reciprocation: - It’s an old give and take principle. First give something in order to get something. You can never get first and give later. If you would not help others then don’t expect people to help you at the time of crisis. Everyday do some good somewhere. Unknowingly, you would start a cycle of reciprocation and your influence would take a new height.
6. Law of Subconscious Mind: - Our conscious mind carries only 1/10^th part of our mind and subconscious mind carries 90% of our mind power. Our conscious mind forgets, but our subconscious mind never forgets anything. Every image you see, thought you read, people you meet, get stored in your subconscious mind. Our thoughts get stored in conscious mind and our thoughts mixed with feelings and faith get transferred to subconscious mind. For developing new habits and removing old habits subconscious mind plays the most vital role. Take a thought and repeat it repeat it with faith and emotions. After 66 days that thought would enter your subconscious mind and it would start reflecting in your actions naturally.  
7. Law of Service (extra-mile):- Service has a human touch which cannot be replicated anywhere by anyone. There are employees who give less service as compare to their salaries, there are employees who give services equal to their salaries, and there are employees who give more services than their salaries. There is no competition for the later employees because there is no traffic jam in the extra-mile. These employees eliminate competition and make special place in their employer’s mind.
8. Law of Specialization: - It is good to have knowledge of different subjects, but always have an area in which you can show competency. Your specialized knowledge can become your competitive advantage. Intelligent people are respected everywhere. I have seen that even one piece of specialized information can turn the whole scenario of planning and execution.
9. Law of Causality: - This law was discovered by Aristotle. He found that there is a cause behind every effect. In simple words, if we would do what successful people do then we would also get success and if we would what unsuccessful people do then we would definitely get failures. Hydrogen and Oxygen would produce water and not wine.
10. Law of Complementarity: - Everything in this world complements one another. Man complements women, sea complements land, sun complements life. It is important to understand that we are living in an interdependent world. There is an interconnected system. Whole world is like a body, defect in one area would automatically affect others. Wise people try to learn things as a whole and then in parts because they know they can’t get true knowledge by remaining in one side of the problem.
11. Law of Forgiveness: - Forgive people not because they were right, but because you want to move forward. Hatred takes away lots of energy which can get utilized somewhere else. The first two people you can forgive are your parents because most of the personality drawbacks are related with parenting. If we would not forget people then throughout our life we would struggle with ourselves.
12. Law of Formality: - People with whom we spend our maximum time, we start taking those people for granted. Our long term relationships require most constant deposit of love and respect.
13. Law of Probability: - Every failure reduces the probability of success. Learn from your failures else you would fail once again.
14. Law of Routine: - In order to control our mind and body, it is important to have a daily routine i.e. set of things which we can do daily.
15. Law of Attraction/Law of Inner Effect: - Our most dominant thoughts attract circumstances and people in our life. Law of inner effect is slightly different, it states that our most dominant thought reflect circumstances and people in our life.
16. Law of Substitution: - Every adversity has a seed of learning in it. Only those people are afraid of failures who fail to understand the importance of failures.
17.  Law of Cooperative Effort: - Every success comes from a collaborative effort. No one can reach far in life by working alone. We all need help and guidance. We all need knowledge to create more knowledge. People who understand the importance of cooperation over competition get more success than those who have only competed and never cooperated. 

How to force your employees to resign instead of terminating them?

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Organizations play an important role in the development of society, country, and individual. But, sometimes they can be your worst nightmare!!

Employees are hired and fired, but there are some employees which cannot be terminated easily because of their proven success record or process of terminating them is too complex to initiate e.g. In India, Judge of Supreme Court or High Court can be removed only by getting Special Majority in both the Houses. The process is too complex to remove them. The only way to remove them is to make them resign willingly. (I don’t want to offend Judges. I only used this example to make my point clear.)

In some cases, employees are needed to be ‘coerced’ or persuaded to give their resignation instead of terminating them.

Below are the 5 common tactics which are used to manage employees out of the organization: -

1.   Micromanaging: - Micromanaging means when your supervisor would try to control and manage each part of your job. He or She would send mails that employee didn’t do this or that work; he or she didn’t follow timeline, he or she is disorganized, he or she is not goal oriented, etc. They would start interfering in every aspect of their employee’s career. This can really piss-off employees. Good managers don’t do it, Bad managers always do it.

2.   Unrealistic Goals: - Supervisor would start giving unrealistic goals to his or her employee so that they could never be able to achieve them. When employees would fail, they would criticize them and embarrass them in-front of others. Humiliation has power to break people. Failures can demotivate anyone and constant failures would keep you demotivated forever. When goals are not S.M.A.R.T. i.e. Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time bound then no one in the world can achieve them (unless you are Rajnikant or GOD itself)

3.  Make Job Dull: - Challenges and responsibilities make our job exciting. Remove challenges and responsibilities and our job becomes boring and dull. When nothing lefts to do, we immediately feel like leaving the job and going away. People don’t work just to earn money and pay bills. People work because they want to be something and do something in life. A dull job is only done by the people who have no purpose in life. An intelligent person can never continue with a dull and boring job.

4.   Boycott: - Supervisor would stop calling employee in the important occasions like Annual Meeting, Conferences, and Special Marketing Events. Employee would felt being neglected, avoided, and unappreciated. These feelings demotivate people and affect their productivity. Supervisor would send you on an “Important Project.” The purpose of these important projects is to cut employee from the office crowd and make him or her feel lonely. No one would report to employee. He or she would have to work alone and when task would not get completed then due to poor-performance resignation of the employee would be taken.

5.  On-the Job Discrimination: - Supervisor would call employee, its colleagues, and juniors. In the meeting, friends of the targeted employee and its team members would be praised and appreciated. Supervisor would act friendly towards them and rudely towards the targeted employee.

Now, what being an employee one should do to reverse the situation? LEAVE your JOB immediately. No need to explain yourself to others. A good supervisor would always tell you the real reason and would help you to grow yourself. If people don’t want you, leave them and move forward in life. 

How to develop Intuition?

Intelligence and Intuition both are essential for any success – Alexis Carrel

In this blog, I would discuss both scientific and philosophical approaches for developing Intuition. I would discuss both because philosophy carries the ‘time-tested’ wisdom whereas science carries intelligence gained through systematic observations and ‘experiments’. It is my advice that people should study both the aspects, but give priority to science because it is more reliable. 

Scientific Approach towards Intuition

Intuition is not a myth. It has been observed that there are people who have ability to analyze future and past events with high accuracy. Therefore, intuitive mind can not only predict future, but also past.

Many people don’t develop their Intuitive mind because either they don’t know how to develop this important mental skill or they don’t know how to distinguish between intuition and illusion.

Remember, intuition should have some logical backing else it becomes difficult to differentiate between intuition and illusion.

To develop intuitive mind, we need to develop Expert Power. It means that we would have to develop an expertise in a particular area. Becoming excellent in a particular field unlocks our intuitive mind. Ignorant man can never develop this power. Remember, your intuition would not work in every field. It only works in the area in which you have your core competency. If you are an expert in Biology then don’t expect your intuition would work in Accounts. If you are an expert in Military Strategies then don’t expect your intuition to work in Cooking. It has been seen that when we devote hours of study and years of work in a single field, our mind develops an ability to recognize ‘patterns’ of success and failures. This gives us a strange mental ability to see things which others completely ignore. This strange mental ability is called Intuition.

Every PhD holder needs to read approx 30 to 50 books for the research purpose. Therefore, reading around 30 to 50 books on a single subject would make you an expert in that field and if you would read 500 books on that subject then you would become the most educated person of that field. Read books written by the experts of your field. See videos, documentaries, listen to audio tapes. Keep feeding your mind with the new pieces of information. Soon your efficiency would reach up to a level which would break the dam of your mind and you would start feeling the strange mental power getting developed inside you.

Let me repeat- developing expert power is the key to open your intuitive mind.

Philosophical Approach towards intuition

In every country, we must have listened about the people who had ability to read mind.
We must have heard philosophers of different time-period saying- listen to your inner voice, gut-feeling, internal drives, etc. Nostradamus, an ancient astrologer, predicted certain things centuries ago and we see all that happening around us. People see something in their dream and it become reality. Crime investigators and Archaeologist predict things happened in the past just by seeing some small clue. These evidences prove that we have some power inside us which we completely ignore.

To develop Intuition, from the philosophical point of view, do the following things consistently- Everyday find some time (even 15 mins would work) when no one would disturb you. Close your eyes. Don’t see, don’t listen, don’t talk, and don’t move your body. Just enjoy the complete silence around you. In the beginning, you would get plenty of thoughts- let them come. Once you are completely relaxed start filling your mind with positive thoughts. Exchange all the negative thoughts with the positive thoughts. This would slowly develop Emotional Understanding of your brain. Philosophers like Mahavira, Buddha, Confucius, etc. have advocated on doing similar kind of exercise. Modern Spiritual Guru like Deepak Chopra has also advocated for this approach.

A relaxed and positive mind would give you energy to identify positivity and negativity around you. Just by seeing people, you would get a ‘spark’ that whether you want to be with them or not. You would get ability to find right and wrong in everyday work, and that would be the time when your intuitive mind would start getting evolved.

Note- I am not sure whether Philosophical Approach works or not, but I have mentioned this approach because many Great Thinkers have talked about it.

You can use whatever approach you feel like and realize your true potential.