5 common mistakes which New Managers make

There are 5 mistakes which generally New Managers make-
1^st Mistake:- They want to be a Hero
Remember, company pays you money to think and work. They don’t pay you to become a Hero and increase your fan following. The problem with the new managers is that they want to show themselves as a heroic person, rebellious and revolutionary in nature whether people around them require that kind of behaviour or not. Before, giving proof of your ‘Great Heroism’ it is important that you prove your honesty towards your employees and commitment for work.

2^nd Mistake:- They criticize, criticize and criticize
It is easy to criticize someone and new managers do it very well. They act like a fault-finder who only makes people realize how inferior they are and they need to improve their standards. Remember, if you don’t praise people then you don’t have any right to criticize them. Your job is to find strengths of your employees and make him or her work for the organisational success. You can make your employee overcome its weaknesses only when it has mastered its strengths and not before that. Even when you need to criticize someone do it in a very casual way. Never do criticism fiercely as it will make your employee defensive and he or she can attack you back.

3^rd Mistake:- They use Nice and Tough approach
Some new managers behave nicely in the beginning and then after sometime they try to be tough with their employees. They believe that this Nice and then Tough approach will help in gaining employee loyalty. No!! Never do this mistake. This is the poorest of all mistakes.
 On other hand, use Tough and Nice approach- This approach means that share your values and make your rules clear in the beginning. Live your values from the first day of your job. Encourage your employees to follow the standards you have made. All the fun can be done later when your employees start understanding you.

4^th Mistake:- They want to change everything
This mistake politicians of India make again and again. They destroy the old system completely and then try to do build a new one. I am not against any change but my point is that every old system carries some good points and we should not overlook them. If you want to bring a new system then at least some part of your road should go through the old system. This will help in preparing people for the ‘Big Change’. Never try to bring change directly in people. The golden rule of changing people is- To change the people, change the Environment e.g. a person will do hand-washing only when you will make water and soap available to him. You cannot directly push him to do something without taking any action from your side.

5^th Mistake:- They do Lots of Talking
New Managers waste lots of time in talking this puts their employees in doubt that whether they have capacity to do something or not. Once an employee of government hospital told me, “Every new hospital administrator talks more than he does. Before talking about honesty they should prove they are honest, before talking about hard work they should do hard work.”
I believe his point was- Do some action and then talk. Action speaks louder than words.

Four rare qualities of Human Beings

In school I had a separate subject of Moral Science where my class teacher and sometimes 

Principal used to give a short lecture on Good Habits, Ideal Living etc.

I think from school I got habit of observing people and finding the Moral Principles they follow. As per my observation there are four qualities which are rare in human beings.
Only exceptional men and women carry them-

1. Humble Confidence- I am purposely using two words here- “humble” and “confidence” because many times people think that confident person is always extrovert, bold or 

first-in-the-row and humble person is always shy and introvert. Humble Confidence simply means being a mix of professional expertise and personal sobriety. These people take their work seriously but not themselves. At the time of crisis they will appear like a great warrior else they will remain in their shell and enjoy their own small tasks.

2. Personal Discipline- Discipline itself is a rare trait but one thing which I never liked about disciplined people is that they unnecessarily want to make everyone disciplined. They always enforce their rules on others by presenting themselves as a great example. But, people with personal discipline are different. They themselves lead a disciplined life but never interfere in others life. They add discipline in their lives because they want to and not to show others that how great they are.

3. Respond Boldly- Every action has a reaction but if we carefully think, plan and analyze our reaction then it becomes respond. Reaction is spontaneous and immediate but respond is not immediate we take a pause, quietly examine the situation and then give it. Once respond is decided successful people convey it boldly, without any fear or hesitation in their tone. Many people react but only few respond with boldness.

4. Limited Networking- In 21^st century people determine your net-worth by the network you have. Interestingly, in school we are taught that we should be friend with everyone but I never met any successful man having a large burden of network. Never network with people with whom you cannot connect. Nothing in your life will damage you more than your useless connections. These people connect with few and continue their friendship with them diligently. 

In school no one teaches us about these four rare qualities. I found these qualities in all exceptional men and women. I hope people follow them sincerely.

4 Stages of Learning Process

I have seen in my life that people who are cheerful and persisting in their life attract more success than people who only depend on their qualifications and job title. I like children not because they are cute and sweet but because every child has tremendous desire to learn new things. I don’t know why, but when we grow up why we slowly crush our learning desire, we feel as if we have learned everything and anything new would only be a burden on brain and nothing else.

Once Socrates said- “King’s should be philosophers and philosophers should be King.” It is because it was his belief that philosophers have learning desire and that learning desire kills all other desires especially physical desires. According to Socrates the major trait of a King was his control on his physical desires which was possible only through immense amount of learning desire. Therefore, we can conclude that other name of a Leader is-Learner.

In a Learning Process a person goes from 4 stages-

1.      Enthusiastic Beginner- At this stage, a person is excited about the topic but has no knowledge.

2.      Confused Learner- This is the path-breaking stage because when we are excited about something and then when we try to learn about it two things happen- either we get encouraged or we get discouraged. The moment someone discourages us or we get a minor failure we slowly lose interest and go back to our past level. Learning is toughest at this stage.

3.      Capable but Nervous Learner- At this stage a person knows How to Work but is nervous about doing it on his or her own. A person does not have confidence and doubts his or her abilities continuously.

4.      Confident Achiever- A person learns the required skill and has practiced it many times. He tends to make fewer mistakes and delivers high-quality results.

Every one of us goes from these stages at one point of time. But only few cross the 4^th stage and become special in life. These people don’t only gain respect for themselves but become inspiration for the society.

Prophet Mohammad- his qualities and Islam

Even though I took birth in a Hindu family, I am more inspired from the thoughts of Buddha than any other spiritual guru. Gautam Buddha has said, “Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.” 

On internet I see lots of Anti-Muslim elements. I was little surprised when my own friend started sharing such half-baked truths regarding Islam and Prophet Mohammad. I have personally analysed Prophet Mohammad and I am here to talk in his favour.

There are many terrorists group which have acclaimed that they are acting in the name of Allah. It is non-sense because in Quran it is written- “Do not fight with anyone unless someone fights with you and do not commit any immorality as Allah does not likes the immoral.” Then how can they say that they are doing something in the name of Allah?

At the time of Brahminism maximum power was with Brahmins and they misguided people for their benefits. This happened in Christianity also where once maximum power was enjoyed by the Church and many crimes took place in the name of religion. History repeats itself because we learn nothing from history. Today Islam has come into the state which Hindus and Christians have already passed.

Don’t judge a Religion by seeing its followers because sometimes followers themselves don’t know what they are following is right or wrong.

If you want to know about Prophet Mohammad read this- “The Holy Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, used to feed the camels himself: He would perform household chores: mend shoes, darn clothes, milk goats, and eat in the company of servants. If a servant became tired while grinding flour, he would help him at this. He would not feel belittled carrying household goods from the market to the house. He would shake hands with the rich and the poor alike. He would always be the first to extend greetings. He would not disdain accepting an invitation not even so small an invitation as to join in eating dates. He relieved those who toiled. He was mild tempered and kind hearted. His conduct was excellent and he was always cheerful. He would smile but would not laugh loudly; he would not frown even when vexed. He was humble, but not lowly; generous, but not extravagant. He was tender hearted and merciful to all Muslims alike. He would never eat his fill to the point where one is likely to start yawning. He would never extend his hand motivated by greed.” (Mishkaat)

Now ask yourself, Prophet Mohammad was a right person or wrong? I believe after reading this you will understand that he was a great man but unfortunately many people don’t know about his greatness.

Crime, Criminals and Criminology

Every society has only few intelligent people rest it is full of mediocres, fools and criminals. It is important for everyone to know certain basics about crime so that we can cope up with it at any point of time.  

In my opinion, Crime is that any intentional activity which can hamper the progress of the society. Criminals are the people who commit crime and Criminology is that field in which we study about crime patterns and criminal behaviour.

Generally, Crime takes place due to political and economical disharmony. Labourer is found 14 times more likely to go to prison than a professional. Poor people commit more crime than Rich people. Lombroso, an Italian Physician and Professor, is considered to be the “father of criminology”, He claimed that combination of certain genes make us Criminals. He did a detailed study on the hereditary aspects of criminal behaviour. He was the first man to coin the word ‘Born Criminals’.

There are 46 chromosomes in our body which make our heredity. Among them 44 chromosomes affect our physical qualities. Some researchers believe that people with certain physical structure are more prone to commit crime e.g. tall and thin people are more likely to commit murder and robbery; tall and fat people are likely to be cheats; short and thin people are tend to be small thieves; short and fat people tend to commit sexual crimes.

Hooton (An anthropologist from Harvard who did a 12 year research on prisoners) stated that generally criminals have sloping forehead, thin lips, short ears, straight hairs, long thick neck and sloping shoulders. His research somewhere proves that our biological development can make us criminal by nature.  

If crime takes place due to social or economic problems then we can stop it by changing our customs, laws, by generating more employment etc. but if it takes place due to mental or personality disorder then it becomes difficult to stop it.

Crime can be classified into 4 groups- against person, against property, against public interest (e.g. embezzlement) and against public decency (e.g. disorderly conduct).  Crime takes place when people want money, sex, recognition or revenge of something. There is no other reason for committing crime.  

There are certain activists which support the brutal punishment for crime esp. Rape. I do agree with them, it is important to give punishment to prevent people from doing any abnormality. But, I also say that instead of punishment we should think of treatment of criminals because it is difficult to explain what happened for what reason. 

How to manage your Boss?

Time is changing and new things are taking place of old things e.g. Earlier, Organisations required Hard Workers but now they require Knowledge Workers. Companies have become more value driven than profit driven. Earlier, Lack of Communication was a problem but now Internet and Mobile have brought people so close that Over-communication has become a problem. People are more scientific than orthodox. They want to desire more, live more, love more. Countries were focused on saving their independence now saving our own planet is an issue.

In this changing time, we see that a new concept is bubbling i.e. Managing our own Boss. Nowadays, we should not only learn to manage our juniors but we should also learn to manage our own Boss.

Boss can be classified in 2 types - (1) Readers (2) Listeners. 

Reader type of Boss- He is the Boss who likes to have details of everything. He will see your Writing Skills to grade you for promotion. He takes time in giving his judgement. He likes perfection and devotes maximum time in Planning. He likes sober, simple and obedient employees. He acts according to facts, than imagination. You will easily find Books, Journals and Newspapers in the cabin of this Boss.

Listener type of Boss- He is the Boss who does not like to have details of everything. He only wants to know about the important things and that also verbally. He takes decisions quickly. He starts working without doing much planning and research. He likes dynamic and competitive employees. He will always concentrate on your dressing sense and oral communication. He puts his imagination in every work. You will easily find Television and Computer (with installed video games) in the cabin of this Boss. You can also catch him gossiping with people in his cabin.

See what type of Boss you have and work according to the expectations of your Boss. You will definitely get success much before than your colleagues.

(Note- The blog is inspired from the article published in a Management Journal)

Jaspal Bhatti Death Numerology

Astrology is among my favourite subjects and Jaspal Singh Bhatti who died few months ago was among my favourite personalities.

Recently, in my leisure time I thought of doing a numerological research on his life. I was shocked to see the association of numbers in his life.

(Note- All these predictions are on the basis of Vedic Numerology only)

Firstly I will start with his name numerology-

J+A+S+P+A+L=17

S+I+N+G+H=17

B+H+A+T+T+I=17

Number 17 indicates that the person would be remembered after his death. He had three times 17 in his name so power of this number gets increased. Hence, He will always be remembered through his humorous shows.

If we add 17 i.e. 1+7 we get 8. It has been observed that three eight bring prosperity and richness. He was definitely a rich man because his name makes 888.

8+8+8= 24 and he married his wife Savita Bhatti on 24 March.

His Date of Birth was 3/3/1955. So, his soul number was 3. This makes 12, 21,30,39, 48, 57, 66, 75, 84 his auspicious numbers. He was born on Thursday and it is a day of Jupiter which represents number 3 in numerology. This increases the power of 3 in his life.

Number 3 indicates that the person would be a simple, truthful, assertive and humorous. I believe he had these qualities in him. This number also makes you a good leader and administrator.

One thing which will surprise all of you is that he took birth on Thursday and died also on Thursday. He died at the age of 57. As mentioned before, it was among his auspicious numbers.

He died on 25/10/2012. If we add 25 i.e. 2+5 we get 7. Seven is a holy number. I believe he must have got heaven.

Rest in Peace Bhatti Sir.